10 Tips for Kids Going to a New School
Well Summer is about over and it’s time for school to startup again. If you have just moved into a new neighborhood and have school-aged children it’s natural for them and even for you as a parent to be apprehensive about the first few days of school. Fortunately, in most cases the first day goes well and it only gets better but there are some things that you can do to try and make the process smoother for you and your children. Accordingly we put together this list of 10 tips for kids going to a new school (which of course applies year-round not just when school starts after Summer break). I should state that this list is heavily slanted toward a parent’s view (as a parent, I can’t help it).
- Encourage confidence. Make sure you instill confidence in your children which can take many forms from making sure they know their strengths and weaknesses to just feeling good in their own skin (which can be difficult depending on the age of the child). Confidence is something that makes a big difference though when meeting new people.
- Dress appropriately. Right out of the gate you want to make sure that you know what the other kids are wearing and unless your child wants to standout (see the first point) it’s a good idea to know the hot shoes, jeans, and what not for the new school. It seems like every area of the country has that hot local store with the trendy shoes everyone wants, etc. Find it if you can (again, material things aren’t necessarily the best way but they can be effective as well especially in junior and senior high school).
- Bus schedules. You have to make sure you know the bus schedules. It’s really embarrassing to get on the wrong bus either going to school, but especially coming home from school. This is not difficult to do, but it can be traumatic for the child.
- School supplies. Make sure that the kids go to school with all the supplies that the school recommends for the class. In many cases you can purchase a supply kit directly from the school and that is really recommended as it eliminates the need for your child to borrow from another kid before they know them well.
- Get involved. Try to get your child into several school activities to both find out what they enjoy most and to increase the likelihood of making more friends. I’m not saying to force the issue at all, but if they have an interest in an activity it’s important for parents to be supportive especially when your child is new to a school.
- Parent involvement. Parents also need to get involved and make sure they understand what is going on at the school. You don’t have to join the PTA, but that would be great if you have the time. If you don’t, just make sure you follow the school news on their website and read all of the flyers they send home with your kids.
- Know thy neighbors. Another great way to get friendships going is to get to know families in the neighborhood. This is important for multiple reasons as you may be able to carpool for school events, help each other remember things, and the kids will at least know some other kids in the school (assuming there are neighbors with kids the same or close to the same age).
- Parents don’t worry your kids. Basically this is a reminder to parents to not bring up the fact that it is scary starting a new school over and over again with your kids. It’s appropriate and great to talk about it but they already feel the pressure and don’t need you to be overly concerned about it as well (it could easily raise their anxiety level).
- Attend open houses. Most schools will have an open house prior to school starting for the kids and parents to meet the teachers and usually get a feel for the school. I have experienced some great meet & greet events up to going through my junior high student’s class schedule accelerated every 15 minutes rotating to the next class at the sound of the bell. That was a great experience and helped me prepare my child better for that school.
- Know the teachers and staff. It’s a great idea to get to know the teachers that will have your kids as well as the principal and others that are working with you to educate your child. They can help point out any issues they may be seeing with your child both social and academic. That can be really helpful (it’s paid dividends for me several times).








Well, how about these things you left off your list, things which seem to me to be a lot more important.
1. Emphasize with your child how important it is to respect his/her teacher and other school staff and administrators.
2. Emphasize for your child the importance of doing his/her own work, even if it isn’t perfect, in lieu of cheating for a grade.
3. Emphasize for your child that you expect them to do the very best job they can to learn what is taught, obtaining the best grade possible for them.
4. Prohibit your child from taking his/her game boy, cell phone, MP3 player or other time consuming, attention grabbing electronic device to school.
5. Assure your child that, should the child report him/her as a discipline problem, the school has your permission to administer appropriate punishment and that that punishment is nothing compared to what will await them at home.